WHAT DID SHE DO TO HER FACE!! - Shout the internet headlines
Renee Zellweger looks a little different. The first thing I thought was, “Yeah, she looks different, but not bad different.”
Then I thought how unfortunate for her that people used to make fun of her unusual appearance and now that she looks more conventional, they’ll make fun of her for plastic surgery.
NYMag‘s Dave Holmes tweeted it like this:
So, here at the end of 2014, we still make fun of people for the face they were born with and then we express shock that they try and “fix” it.
I feel a little like sh*t. We probably all should.
Brittany Maynard is a 29 year old woman with terminal brain cancer who has moved to Oregon in order to receive a doctor’s prescription for life-ending drugs. I choose to respect her decision. This is not a post about her, but about her verbiage.
My concern is the use of the term “dignity”
There’s an implication here that irks me. You do not lack dignity if you live out your days being cared for by others. That someone else helps you bathe and dress and God-forbid change your diapers…this has nothing to do with:
We all want to go out on our own terms, but life sucks sometimes and there’s no dishonor in vulnerability.
Love and peace to Brittnay Maynard and all who suffer.
UPDATE: A lovely reader, Marcy, sent me an email with a different interpretation, which I think is valid and good to remember:
My interpretation is that it’s trying to show contrast between the state-sanctioned pills and the likely traumatic ways that terminal people attempt to end their lives early when they are not given a more peaceful option.
I honestly hadn’t thought of that, and was simply reacting to the idea I often hear from people equating a loss of dignity with long term care. I’m also glad to see another side.
One of the best things I’ve ever read on grief is the book Love is a Mixtape by Rob Sheffield. (It is his story of losing his wife suddenly to an embolism.) This passage has always stuck with me:
“I was helpless in trying to return people’s kindness, but also helpless to resist it. Kindness is a scarier force than cruelty, that’s for sure…when you experience this type of kindness…You lose your right to be a jaded cynic.”
I just wanted to take a moment and thank all of you for your tweets and notes and emails and thoughts of kindness toward me and Jason. In the face of death and mayhem and injustice all over the world, I’ve received a portion of goodwill that overwhelms me and reminds me that most people are kind in an unkind world.
It leaves us determined to be more patient with one another, and give people the kind of break we’ve had to ask for as we stumble through grief. And we’re doing better today.
Sadly, our Mr. Knightly has passed away. After 15 years together, he was tired and frail and in pain and we knew it was time. We had just returned to Washington state after years away and we like to think he held on in order to get us safely home. It is a heartbreak unlike anything we’ve ever felt, but one of our comforts is how much he was loved by all of our friends.
We were honored to have him in our care for so many years. Thank you for the all the good times you shared with our little family. We have an empty space that will be tough to fill. As we said to him as he slipped away to peace, “what a good boy you are”
As life must go on in good times and bad, we have rented a little house in Roslyn, WA and are moving in this week to start a new chapter that looks very different from what we planned.
Jen and Jason Andrews
PO Box 199
Roslyn, WA 98941
Recently I have read some books that I didn’t really like:
No Book but the World
You Should Have Known
All Our Names
A couple good mysteries that resolve nicely:
Her Husband’s Secret
But the main thing I want to tell is that I read a sweet little story about a sad, misanthropic bookseller whose life and outlook change through a series of events that add up to a good life.
1) Super easy to read
2) Funny and sweet
3) Hyper-literate characters who talk in the language of people who love books. You will enjoy all the references as a side benefit to a lovely story.
The Grand Budapest Hotel is so good. The one-two punch of Schindler’s List and Lord Voldemort (and let’s be honest, Maid in Manhattan) had led me to believe Ralph Fiennes was incapable of being likeable on film. I was so wrong. I am now pretty much in love with him.
Side note: A while back I had decided to try and excise “darling” from my vocabulary. (It’s my favorite term of endearment, but I feared it was making some people uncomfortable…too lovey and familiar, I surmised.) After Budapest though…I’m thrilled to say “darling” has been returned to me and I delight to use it again!
I do not hesitate to say that for me, this is Wes Anderson’s finest effort yet. If you don’t like his movies this will be no fun for you, but for those of us who do…I think it’s great fun to rank them, and I do it by how happy I was as I left the theater.
So from least happy to most happy:
Fantastic Mr. Fox
Cheers to Wes all the way around!
Update: I’m on a work deadline and you’ve probably figured out that when I commit to a deadline, I’m obsessed with it. So I’ve been absent from this blog as well as @tbtljen on Twitter. I miss it and I miss all of you and I’m sure I’ll be back soon.
In the meantime, I find myself using the time I have to look for things that make me happy. So here’s my list this week:
**The Parks and Rec finale was as close to perfect as it gets. I would give anything to have been at the Unity Concert!
I made a pork roast using this recipe and it was a triumph!
I rented About Time from Redbox and I loved it. It’s all about all the good things in life, it’s by the same guy who made Love Actually, Four Weddings and A Funeral, and Notting Hill and it’s funny and romantic and heartbreaking and ultimately joyful…the stuff that makes me cheer. (Plus, Bill Nighy is a god among men)
And the song, “Birmingham” by Shovels and Rope
(Quick notes about the song and video: a)don’t worry about the dog in the video…he’ll be okay & b) a “nickajack man” is slang for men from the foothills of the Appalachians)
I wasn’t too thrilled with the finale. Shosh being desperate, Marni being a bizarre-giggling weirdo, and Jessa agreeing to euthanize someone she barely knows all felt disconnected and uninteresting.
I had gotten used to the rhythms of Adam and Hannah as a couple. I really enjoyed Hannah’s birthday party, Hannah’s job at GQ, the trip to pick up Jessa from rehab. In terms of adjacent characters, Adam’s sister was fascinating every moment she was on screen (the brother/sister therapy session with Hannah as the therapist was a favorite) and anytime Elijah showed up the scene became hilarious and quotable (Hannah encouraging him not to feel bad about misunderstanding the word “inertia” was a perfect moment.)
I think I realized that it’s Adam and Hannah’s interactions with each other and with the world that keep me coming back. I would be perfectly happy to have next season set at the Iowa Writers Workshop with just Hannah and Adam.
Well, as long as Caroline and Councilman Jam (see Parks and Rec) stop in to visit often.
NYMagazine ran an article this morning about how Courtney Love has joined the search for Malaysian Flight #370. When I saw the headline I rolled my eyes. Then when I saw this picture she posted, I laughed:
After reading the article I realized her heart is not only in the right place, but there’s an actual website set up where you can sign in and be assigned a search area (via satellite).
There’s something wonderful about learning a lesson in humanity from Courtney Love. It’s a good morning!
As a huge fan of the greatest teen detective ever (Harriet and Encyclopedia were a little young to be in this category and there isn’t time to get into Nancy here…) I couldn’t wait for this Kickstarter-funded movie to open.
I rented it on Amazon over the weekend and I loved it.
It felt like a four episode arc of the show…just nine years later. After leaving her hometown to go to law school and start a new life, Veronica gets pulled back when her high school boyfriend is accused of murder. Of course the whole gang comes together to help her solve the crime. It had all of the action, humor, love, friendship and self-doubt we’ve come to expect from writer/creator Rob Thomas (he also created and wrote my beloved Party Down).
I don’t think it really stands as a movie; I can’t imagine anyone who didn’t watch the show would be that interested. (If you find yourself in that camp, by all means, watch the show. You can get all three seasons online and I guarantee you’ll love it.) But it was exactly what the fans wanted. It didn’t try to be something different. which I really applaud.
I can’t wait to watch it again. (Also, I’m definitely ready for the Buffy/Angel movie…as long as they’re both in it)